I used to have this recoil response to “mom” fitness programs. They often felt lame and boring to me. In attempt to make them “doable” and safe for ALL MOMS, I feel like the creators of these programs forget to intelligently CHALLENGE and EMPOWER us.Read More
I know, I know, exercise is healthy.
It’s prescribed for MANY a health problem.
And movement is GREAT for ALL aspects of your health, including sex, BUT you should know that there are some popular trends in fit culture and some physiological responses to exercise that can negatively impacting your sex life.
If you’re new here, I’m Sarah Smith and I’m a mom.
I have three boys all born over the course of 5 years.
From 2010 to 2017 my life was COMPLETE chaos in SO many ways.
But what’s interesting is that I have accomplished more in the past 8, 9 years than I ever did before I had my kiddos.
The reality is that having children is a blessing and I am so thankful to God that His plan included my becoming a mother to my three boys.
BUT if we are being realistic about children and the work that they require, they are VERY much obstacles to accomplishing things.
I don’t care if we are talking about your “to-do” list for the day, a project at work, cleaning the kitchen floor, or simply just getting a shower.
Kids are MAJOR hurdles that you have to get over in order to “accomplish” things.
But there’s the thing.
In our culture, we think too much about obstacles as bad things.
What I have learned in the past decade of my life is that OBSTACLES and how we respond to them, is actually what shapes us!
They carve out the path for our lives FAR more than all of the successes and wins ever will.
And so today, I want to share three major obstacles that I’ve faced in the past 10 years, and how while unpleasant at the time, even painful trying or devastating, they were tObstaclehe best things that could have happened to me!
So keep reading!
Obstacle #1 Grad school with a baby
Ok, so this is not as major and devastating as the other obstacles, but this particular obstacle sets the stage for what I’m going to be talking about.
I was pregnant and then had a baby while pursuing my MS in Soil Science.
NOT the end of the world! BUT the problem was that I came to NC State University as a qualified microbiology and genetic researcher with years of experience during sophisticated lab-based research at the National Institutes of Health and University of Arizona’s grant with the Dept. of Homeland Security.
I had peer-reviewed publications. I was a “scientist”
Except that once pregnant, I didn’t want to work in the lab anymore and expose myself to various chemicals and once I had the baby, I barely wanted to leave him. Like ever.
I almost quit! Because I couldn’t figure out how to reconcile my new life with my past career and reputation.
I took a semester off to stress about giving up on a dream vs. leaving my kiddo to do long hours of lab-based research and what happened was something beautiful really.
I created a WHOLE new project that was research based on teaching cultural competence in urban community garden settings.
I even published an 4H Manual that is being used now to train agricultural students and people working in community gardens how to teach and collaborate with under-served populations comprised of a diversity of people from different cultures and ethnic backgrounds.
I had the opportunity to work on a project with Will Allen
If it wasn’t for my pregnancy and my first born and ALL the limitations he placed on my life, I would never have had such a creative and unique Masters project and learned all the incredible skills that I did.
The restriction of not being able to be like EVERYONE else, which often made me feel inferior, ended up setting me a part and making me great!!
Obstacle # 2 Working out at home with kids.
Kids are a blessing and I feel honored to be a mama.
Having kids is not some horrible ordeal, BUT it is mega challenging.
Children can be an obstacle that we have to contend with when trying to take care of ourselves.
They force us to go back to the drawing board when it comes to accomplishing even the simplest of tasks, NEVER MIND getting in a workout.
For a few years I fought back against my life as a stay-at-home mom.
I tried to pretend that it was realistic for me to routinely get out of the house to exercise and take care of myself.
And while this might be possible for you (yay!) it was NOT for me.
My husband and I were running a fast growing family business and both time and finances were TIGHT.
I finally realized that taking care of myself in movement, exercise and quiet moments to myself needed to not always be an ESCAPE from my life, but had to be inserted into my day.
I decided it was good for my kids to learn to be independent.
I decided that I wanted to focus on growing muscles and strength and stop chasing skinny.
I decided that if prisoners could get in incredible shape in prison (I’m not even kidding, I thought this!) then I could do the same in my gross basement.
It’s a long story and I’m sharing some if in the POP Challenge, but I got innovative in my movement and training practice.
I started figuring out how to build muscle, lift weights and use bodyweight exercises with my kiddos around and built my body stronger and more capable than it had EVERY been before!
I found a new strategy for training that I would NEVER have found had not had the restrictions in my life that I did with kids!
I become more efficient, created programs and workouts that work in all sorts of time frames, situations and with different equipment.
I ended up creating an entire business around the skills that I was cultivating!
Obstacle # 3 Pelvic Organ Prolapse
So this might be the most devastating obstacle that I talk about openly.
Being diagnosed with POP three years ago was a HUGE blow to my mind and ego.
Here I had done ALL THIS WORK and innovation to create a business and cultivate a movement practice that made me feel great, confident and I was told that I had to give all that up.
I could no longer exercise, run, even stand or walk for long periods of time without feeling lots of pressure.
Every time I could feel my bladder prolapsed into the vaginal cavity I felt such shame, frustration and sadness.
I felt like a fraud, coaching women to strength train and exercise when I could no longer do it.
I felt broken.
I felt regret, something I had done had caused this injury and had I known better, I could have prevented it.
For months I wallowed in sadness until one day, I couldn't take it any longer!
I decided to take action.
Prolapse was NOT the first obstacle that I had ever faced-like you I have encountered MANY (not mentioned here) over the course of my life.
I believed that there MUST be a way to work around or through it.
And so I fought.
I tried new approaches to movement.
I found people that could help me.
And it worked!
While prolapse never fully goes away and I am FOREVER changed, mine is no longer symptomatic or detectable.
But what the obstacle of prolapse did for me:
Helped me realize that how we move matters for our health. It’s not just enough to exercise. IN FACT, exercise can cause pain and problems if we don’t learn some basics about breathing and movement mechanics.
Too much of a good thing is too much. Over-exercising can cause damage to our guts, thyroids, adrenals, and MINDS. I developed prolapse right around the time when I was becoming a little too obsessed with exercise. So I am thankful for that obstacle and limitation because as bad as POP is, I think I have avoided some far more devastating health challenges by shifting my relationship with exercise.
Because I had to REALLY get in tune with my body to pay attention to symptom increase and because I could not longer rely upon the same old movement in exercise, i became creative and efficient with my movement. Once again, my training changed and made me BETTER, stronger, wiser and more interesting.
I have become a spokesperson for pelvic health and am helping women every day all over the world, understand and rehabilitate their pelvic floors.
My question for you is what limitation or obstacle is keeping you accomplishing the goals that you have for yourself.
Have you ever tried adopting a new and different perspective about it?
Maybe it is pushing you in a direction that you would never choose otherwise and maybe while unpleasant, it can create positive change in you!
What about accepting that limitation as it is right now and figuring out how best to work with it?
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When you have your HANDS FULL, how do you take an exercise program, workout, movement practice DESIGNED by someone else and make it work FOR YOU?
How do you account for your level of exhaustion/energy; hormones (where you are in your cycle, IT MATTERS!)?
How do you adapt a workout to your time, clothing (whether you want to put on a sports bra or get sweaty or not)?
I know it can be frustrating when you have to do EXTRA things just to feel normal like everyone else, but there are MYRIAD reasons why your body is asking for extra attention in this context, so just give it what it needs.
Accept that this is a challenge for you RIGHT NOW and it's not necessarily forever.
Be present in your body.
Consciously use your breath to relax every bit of your body all the way down to your toes!!
It's wonderful that more and more we hear about women wanting to be STRONG.
In the gym.
In their relationships...
These days strength is revered.
And you definitely see this translating to the fitness world.
More and more women are lifting heavy weights, engaging in sports and competitions that for decades were considered to be primarily for the dudes.
I myself have encouraged you here or on social media to try working for strength and not just focusing on shrinking your size, burning your fat.
The pursuit of strength can be a MAJOR mental, emotional and physical game changer.
And can help us fall in love with our fitness practice.
We see our skills and capability growing.
We see our muscles popping.
We see our confidence and can-do attitudes swelling and
WE LIKE IT!
But truthfully-some of you may be reading this and thinking, "I want to be strong, but how do I start."
And others might be saying to themselves, "I see strength in the gym, but it's not translating to my real life...what am I missing?"
And this is the thing.
What you do in the gym CAN help you grow strength in your real life, but it's not guaranteed.
Obsessing over physical strength and performance can just as easily make you WEAK in that you character becomes weak.
So let's talk about THREE ingredients for real life strength.
Strength that will help you in the gym, but will ALSO just make you more ready for real life!
You gotta believe and practice belief.
Not that you are necessarily as "strong" today as you would like to be, but that your desire to BECOME stronger is important enough.
That the specific areas of your life in which you want to grow strength, they matter and that your work will get you there.
If you truly believe that something is important, then THAT conviction will keep you going amidst the set-backs, frustrations and failures.
Conviction will inspire the other good attributes that you need. Like faithfulness, perseverance, discipline (willingness to do the hard work consistently for a period of time).
If you have no conviction, then it's hard to continually to convince yourself that what you're doing has value.
How do we get it?
By thinking about the things that you value.
Making them a priority.
And practicing believing in them.
If something is important to you.
Being convicted about achieving that goal means DEVOTING the appropriate time and energy to it.
How does conviction make you strong?
It gives you the determination necessary to do Step 2!
Diligence in the daily, behind the scenes, non-sexy, work and dedication to something you believe it is a non-negotiable.
We don't get strong but just one day saying, "Tomorrow I'm going to be strong."
It's something we cultivate over time and truthfully, while the type of strength we grow or the context in which we grow it might change, this is sort of one of those unending projects.
A wise man once said, "Most champions are built by punch the clock workouts rather than extraordinary efforts." -Dan John
Whether we are talking about fitness or just plain old real life, we don't get to our goal or becoming stronger through one grand beautiful perfect leap.
It's a series of small steps that are often undetectable to others, riddled with failures, and
We grow it.
We practice it.
We find it by doing the hard, boring work that changes our character and makes us more resilient EVEN WHEN NO ONE SEES our work.
We consistently show up to chip away at whatever it is that we want, piece by piece and it ain't comfortable.
In fact if it's TOO comfortable, all of the time, then you're probably not challenging yourself.
I'm not saying you have to over-commit, over-tax or over-train, but you do have to be leaning into the uncomfortable-even if it's uncomfortable is just because it's sort of boring.
We need to be doing the hard things we don't want to do.
And it's BECAUSE of all that diligence, that we can perform when necessary.
And what is performance?
Maybe it is a true performance like in a meet or competition.
Or maybe it's just a challenging moment in life that we handle better than we had ever hoped we could.
Maybe it's just that feeling of "I can do this," that we find one day because of ALL THE work that we've put in.
Being able to look at ourselves and feel pride in our accomplishments, how far we've come, the changes we've made, this is important.
How will we be motivated to do things in the future if we never take time to celebrate what we've accomplished, how far we've come??!!!
If we allow pride to keep us from seeing the many areas in which we still have room to grow, then we will quickly lose conviction in bettering ourselves and we will then NOT have what we need to be diligent or disciplined.
"If you see any thing in yourself which may make you proud, look a little further, and you will find enough to make you humble."
WELLINS CALCOTT, Thoughts Moral and Divine
I truly believe that finding that balance between allowing what you can do and what you've survived thus far, to breath courage and resilience into your being WITHOUT over-filling.
Without humility, we are blind to ourselves.
When we are metaphorically blind to our weak spots, we are cocksure we are an vulnerable to injury in the worst way.
We are stunted and no longer growing.
"Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility. "
Are these the only things you need to build strength?
But they are a dang good start!
I worry because there are a LOT of messages in the world of fitness today that promote the idea that STRENGTH comes from showing up and pushing yourself SO hard until you vomit, or hurt yourself or beat your personal best.
And while as a former track coach and competitor, I think it's fine to push REALLY hard to achieve a goal, at a performance or meet.
There are even moments in real life when we have to throw EVERYTHING we have against the wall to push through a mental or emotional plateau.
But the truth is, as Dan John's quote so eloquently shows, you will become a champion in your life from the conviction, diligence and humility you need to face the daily hard work necessary to become great, at anything.
Persistence over perfection, over the long haul.
I’m still working on all of this.
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All exercise is healthy. Right?
Not so much.
While there isn’t anything wrong with any one training modality, form of exercise or exercise class, per se, the mindset and practice we cultivate around it can be damaging, for sure, toxic even.
It can foster feelings of hatred, resentment, failure, and frustration towards physical activity and exercise and therefore becomes a TOTALLY counterproductive thief of our joy!
Come see what I mean!
Raise your hand if you’re someone that is either “On the exercise wagon” or completely 100% off of it.
Do you have a rigid idea in your mind of what exercise needs to look like?
Does it need to take a certain amount of time? Occur in a specific place in certain clothes?
Does it have to look exactly like what your peers are doing? What celebrity “X” is using to get her amazing body?
Does it always have to leave you pouring sweat and gasping for air?
Do you believe that if you miss a day you will fall behind? Lose momentum? Lose results? Gain weight? Backslide into old habits?
This is the sort of mindset that I used to have around exercise and just like with dieting, I was TOO restrictive and so I never found my groove. I would binge, restrict, binge restrict, overdoing it with BOTH sedentary AND active phases-never finding the balance between training, moving and resting.
I never could figure out how to make my fitness and movement practice just a part of my life because I had REAL rigid ideas of what I needed to do in fitness in order for it to “count.”
Can you relate?
I was either running 6 miles a day 5 days a week, or nothing.
I was sticking to a strict schedule, attending a certain class, consistently using only one training modality or I was doing nothing.
And I wasn’t “healthy” when I was exercising hard and constantly.
I became injured, I was tired. I lost my appetite…
Just like when we are on a diet, I felt locked in by “the rules” .
Whose rules? I have no idea.
I’m sure they were a combination of
what I saw others doing
what fitness culture was telling me was “effective” and
whatever routine was JUST enough out of reach that striving for it made me feel like I was really accomplishing something-making up for lost time. I mean if it didn’t sort of feel like punishment, would it even work? Was it enough?
Consequently I was happy for excuses to skip out on workouts, miss runs, take it easy.
And when I was “off the wagon” I missed how exercise made me feel but I NEVER actually missed the exercise itself.
I didn’t miss the pressure, the feelings of failure, the guilt when I “skipped” a workout.
And the more I grew accustomed to this cycle of inactive vs. super active , the more I had to REALLY PUMP MYSELF UP to want to get back into the active part of the cycle, because I didn’t enjoy it-even if I felt there was an aspect of it that did make me feel better.
But my sedentary habits weren’t make me feel great either.
My mood and digestion would suffer. My body was achy and I felt like I was craving movement!
So I would find something new- a new class at the gym, swimming, training for triathlons, lifting weights and that worked for a while, but I finally realized that it wasn’t the exercise itself that was the problem, it was my mindset.
I was too restrictive.
I was dieting, white knuckling it, so super perfectionist and holding myself to standards that I thought were what I needed to do in order to get results!
It wasn’t until I had my second baby that out of necessity, I began to change my mindset and FINALLY found my groove with training and movement.
Here are the guidelines that I used to cultivate a consistent and life nourishing relationship with movement and exercise! THESE ARE NOT RULES, but simply a framework that I used to integrate movement and fitness into my lifestyle and get out of the cycle of fitness dieting!
Move daily-no matter what it looks like, and do it outside when you can!
I knew that movement made me feel good. I knew that getting outside in the sun and fresh air was good for my mental health, vitamin D and my babies, toddler and infant at the time.
So I made a commitment to move every day in one respect or another, no matter for how long or how it looked.
Movement took place in a number of different forms, but it happened.
Often it was a leisure walk around the neighborhood with kids in the stroller.
Sometimes it was yoga in the living room with them close by.
Other times it was just crawling around in the grass in the backyard or doing some raking or simply doing yard work while the littles were hanging with me outside.
And several times a week, when I could make it work, it would be some version of a short workout.
Moving daily in all the different ways helped me to maintain momentum. It made the hurdle of getting up or getting out to move, far less intimidating and when I had the time and energy to do so, it made it FAR easier to get in a real workout, because I was already used to moving, and now I just had to move a little more intensely for a period of time.
Yes there were days when no intentional movement happened either because I was tired, the kids were sick, or whatever, but on those days, I missed my movement practice and because I had such lax requirements for what movement needed to “look like” it made it easier to get back to it!
Strength train your body-
I transitioned away from an “exercise” mentality and gradually started to train my body. I trained for strength, resilience, body composition changes and endurance.
I realized that part of my problem with exercise was that there was never any clear goal. For me, exercise was largely about showing up to burn off calories or fat, lean out…and those are such nebulous goals that are not always appropriate for new nursing mommas (which I was at the time), are difficult to measure, and impacted by our hormonal cycles. I needed a clear bullseye, I wanted something to work towards, so strength and endurance because my new targets.
This was awesome because regardless of how many calories I burned doing one set of pushups in my kitchen while emptying the dishwasher, I knew for certain that I was building strength and getting better at pushups.
Maybe sprints in the driveway didn’t take the full 60 minutes that I had believed and exercise class needed to take, but I could feel my legs, core and reflexes growing stronger, my speed and lung capacity were increasing and I didn’t need more than 10 minutes for a sprint workout.
Besides, strength training was convenient for me. I could leave weights in any room of the house and do a few rods of weighted squats while the kids played on the floor. I could throw a kettlebell in the bottom of the stroller, walk to the play ground and work on my swing. I could bring bands to the park or out in the backyard to do some presses or pull aparts while the babies napped in the stroller.
I learned to view rest part of my process-
Whether you’re an elite athlete or a total amateur momma just trying to hold it together while you care for two young kids, you need REST and RECOVERY! I had totally bought into the mindset that we are supposed to exercise almost EVERY DAY, 5 to 6 days a week for sure! And if we didn’t, we weren’t doing enough to get good results. But there is no science to support that this approach over time is the best option for all people and there is PLENTY of science that shows if we don’t rest, recover, sleep and move gently between training sessions, we will get hurt, we will create loads of chronic inflammation, we will NOT get good results.
So I started to make rest part of it!
I even learned about some of the hormonal benefits of resting in my life, between rounds, between workouts, or whenever I needed it. Rest was intentional.
Rest was strategic.
Rest was what was going to keep me consistent with my fitness and movement practices!
#persistenceoverperfection became my new motto for life-
Moving away from rigid expectations and approaches to exercise helped me to finally get consistent.
Movement and training because actions that NOURISHED me. I wanted them to be a part of my life, so I began to prioritize them.
I also knew that if I was tired, training wasn’t going to be good for me, that movement was OFTEN the key to feeling better about my day, even when everything felt like it was falling apart and I was constantly failing,
And I saw the value of rest because resting one day almost ensured that I would get back into my training or movement practice of BOTH the next day.
The more lax I because in my expectations, the more disciplined I actually wanted to be.
The more I gave myself a pass to shorten my workouts, or not train at all, the easier it became for me to make them happen. Sure maybe it would take me ALL day to get in 4 rounds of a simple 5 minute circuit consistent of 4-5 exercises, but I would do it! And because I did, I became more consistent, got the best physical results I have ever gained form exercise and I finally had a relationship with fitness and movement that wasn’t one of obligation and guilt.
It was there FOR ME to make me better and when I was rested and had the time I would use it to the best of my ability that day, because I was PERSISTENT in my pursuit of movement and fitness practices, but I was NO LONGER perfectionist about what it needed to look like.
What about you?
Are you stuck on the “on again, off again” fitness dieting cycle?
Do you feel locked into a specific approach to exercise?
Are you consumed with the message that exercise needs to kick your ass and burn ALL the calories in order to be of value?
Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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Sarah Smith is a personal trainer, level two Russian Kettlebell Instructor, postnatal fitness specialist and pelvic floor and gut health advocate working online and in Raleigh, North Carolina.
She specializes in helping women online and in-person feel strong, confident and capable in their bodies!
Sarah is a mom to three boys and one English Bulldog. She loves soil, coffee and not folding laundry.
"After all that, I'm just ready to be me." -Lauryn Hill
I'm work fitness.
I help women stretch beyond their comfort zones and grow.
I help them find time in their days and space in their lives to care for their bodies with movement and training.
I help them crush goals, change how they feel in their bodies and even change aspects of their physique.
I do NOT tell them that they have to be like me.
I do NOT encourage them to look to Pinterest boards and fitness models as inspiration for whom they should become.
I have an online presence that features me working out, sharing my accomplishments, challenging others to do more in their lives.
I follow other women that are crushing online.
I look to them and their accomplishments with admiration.
I use them to challenge me.
I work HARD to make sure that I refrain from EMULATING them or believing that I have to do exactly what they are doing to be successful, to be happy.
You see, I am 100% in opposition of is the idea that we should EVER make another individual human being the standard for what WE SHOULD BE.
I spent from age 13 to 19 suffering chronic whiplash from always looking around at what EVERYONE else was doing and using that as a measure of what I needed to be.
Consequently I had NO direction.
I felt like a failure and a fraud.
I pretty much hated my life.
At 19 years old I had two amazing faculty members at the University of New Hampshire, that changed my life.
They saw me.
They saw my talents and my potential for the successful achievement of goals.
They believed in me.
They weren't confused about who I was.
They weren't comparing me to anyone else.
They weren't telling me to become something else.
They simply let me know that I was capable and that I could cultivate a life for myself beyond what I was doing now.
I could do better.
And never in a "you don't measure up" sort of manner, but in a, "I see you. You got this," sort of way.
And suddenly I wanted to change EVERYTHING.
I wanted to invest in myself.
I wanted to expand my comfort zone and pursue all the things that I wanted out of life.
I saw fellow students buckling down and succeeding in school and I went after MY OWN version of that.
I saw my friends enjoying their hobbies and academic pursuits and I wanted to figure out how to do that for myself too!
I took a hard look at the habits, relationships and activities in my life that WERE NOT working and I changed them.
I took another job.
I studied like I had NEVER studied before.
I set goals.
I wrote them down.
I changed who I spent time with.
I found new tasks and activities that actually nourished me.
My life suddenly looked like no one else's around me and you know what.
It was good.
Of course this took place over a couple of years and while I learned this incredibly important lesson early in life, I have had to re-learn it and grow it and build upon it time and time again.
BUT the foundation that nineteen year old Sarah Smith laid has FOREVER impacted my life and helped me to stop chasing everyone else and invest in my own life.
And this is why I feel so passionately about speaking out against the MANY messages in fitness, social media and popular culture that tell you,
"Be this_______[insert snapshot of popular, fit, successful person]."
Especially for pre and postnatal women, women struggling with their body image, confidence, self respect and a sense of place in this world.
Because when we are in theses states we are vulnerable.
We can be more susceptible to harmful messaging.
We can do ourselves harm chasing standards set for us by the culture EVEN when we don't know that we are doing it.
That nineteen year old young woman that was affected by what everyone else around her was doing, she came out again during my third pregnancy and postpartum period.
I found myself being affected by what fitness culture was telling me pregnant and early postpartum women should be doing, looking like, be capable of.
I didn't even know that I was doing it!
I was working my ass off.
Training, lifting, chasing kiddos, not always eating enough, exhausted, a little fried...
Because I thought that's what you did.
And then I injured my body.
The good thing about my injury is that it taught me that I could no longer copy what anyone else was doing.
NO one readily accessible to me rehabbing pelvic floor dysfunction, diastasis recti, pelvic organ prolapse AND training with kettlebells.
I had to look to my own body.
I had to pay attention to my own life.
I had to work around my own restrictions and capitalize on my own strength.
Once again I had to stop using what others were doing as my meter stick for success and fitness.
And it was good!
I now am SUPER outspoken about the fact that pelvic floor dysfunction, pelvic organ prolapse and other injuries shouldn't stop you from living your life and crushing your goals.
But I the way that I train and the messages that I share are always based on the idea that we need to learn what works for us as individuals.
We need to challenge ourselves to grow.
But trying to keep up with other people and do exactly what they are doing is both an empty, dangerous and unsatisfying pursuit.
At the end of the day, we are 100% responsible for shifting our focus and our mindset from looking to other people to learn "What we should be."
But I also know how impactful it was to have two very successful intelligent people in my life say, "I see you. You can do more. Dig in and grow. "
And so that's what I do with my coaching and my online community.
I see you.
You can do it!
It doesn't have to look like what anyone else is doing to be good, valuable...to be a success.
Every moment of the day doesn't have to be about heavy-lifting (metaphorically speaking) and getting things done.
If it is, then we burn out.
We need that down time, because it keeps us balanced and connected to our lives.
It prevents burnout and ultimately allows us to produce more at a higher quality and be happier, more present people.
So we talked about how to incorporates some structure into her rest time....basically how she could get REAL intentional about rest and leisure.Read More
" I actually made a great change, I decided that diet soda is a non negotiable for me.
So bad for you, but I love it. I use to drink it all day, constantly. Over the years it has decreased and now I have stopped drinking it Mon-Thurs and have one diet soda, Fri-Sun.....That is huge for me!
-Dana, Cultivate for Life 2016 client who has lost 60 lbs in the past year!!!!!!
Some people, programs, magazines...they might lead you to believe that they can tell you EXACTLY what you need to do to lose those fat stores, change up your eating habits, increase your wellness.
And they may very well have something to teach you, but to make effective and sustainable progress, you have to be discerning.
You can take their advice, apply it, and learn what works for you and what doesn't.