There’s a lot of talk in the online space about the need for society to change its rigid and often unhealthy and unrealistic standards of beauty for women.
I totally agree with that sentiment and the movements in support of it, but I have to be honest with you about something.
I think that it would be amazing for society to completely overhaul it’s beauty standards and start praising women of all ages, sizes, shapes, and appearance for their individual beauty and value as people.
But I don’t know when or if that’s going to happen or even if that’s the most effective solution for changing how we view ourselves.
You see we can talk all day long about what the culture SHOULD expect of us and how to change our society's message to women… but I honestly think that society will always get it wrong when it comes to valuing women (and men).
Society will always deify some traits which in turn undervalues or even condemns others.
The culture will always oversimplify what it means to be a woman… about what is valuable and what makes us beautiful…but I think the work that needs to be done is in us.
We can’t rely upon popular culture to tell us why we are special, to make us feel better about our imperfections, our unique strengths, our beauty and lovable quirks BUT we can
begin to change the ways we think and talk about ourselves and our bodies
find people that love us as we are
be vigilant about the magazines, social media and tv shows that we watch and allow to shape our thoughts on life and bodies
start working towards goals that you wish to accomplish with your mind and body
cultivate a life that we are proud of, imperfections and all
When you have your own plan that you're diligently following and you surround yourself with people that support you as you are AND in the accomplishments that you wish to achieve, you will have less time to focus on whatever everyone else is doing and less tolerance for societal messages that you're not enough.
Your confidence and your self-respect is going to tell the world how to treat you.
It will even help other women brush off their own insecure feelings.