What are you NOT PREPARED to do to get fit?
In The Untouchables, staring Sean Connery and Kevin Costner, there’s this great[famous] scene between Connery and Costner where they discuss how to bring Capone down.
Knowing the danger and messiness of stopping an unstoppable force like Capone and his mafia, Connery turns to Costner and says,
“What are you prepared to do?”
He doesn’t say,
“What’s your strategy?”
“How are we gonna get this guy?”,
“How much do you want to get Capone?”
but by choosing the word “prepared’” he’s getting to the meat of the issue
“Have you really thought about the cost and are you still willing to proceed and do everything necessary to finish it?”
I mean he's really asking, "Where is the line that you won't cross?"
This going to be a battle and how far is Costner willing to take it? Is he prepared to lose some of the things at stake, to do all that it will take?
Ahhhh, there's so much there!
So I think about this scene in terms of my own life experience because it forces me to confront goals, aspirations, desires that I have in the most honest and constructive way possible.
I’ve learned to look at things in life that I want and ask myself two questions.
What are you prepared to do to get that?
What are you NOT PREPARED to do to get that?
And I want to start with question #2 because I think that part of the process is most informative and impactful because when we really want something, the question is often NOT about what do we need to do to make it happen, but rather about what we are NOT going to do.
Where are our limits and how are those limits going to impact the process and timeline of this journey?
I’ll give you an example from my own life.
Five years ago following the birth of my second son, I decided that I needed to get back into regular exercise, but for the first time in my life, I didn’t look at the TREMENDOUS DIVERSITY of possible exercises, time slots and equipment that I could use to reach my goals, no this time I started with,
“What am I NOT willing to do to reach this goal?”
It sounds like a negative place to start, but it was the most honest way to carve out the path I would ACTUALLY take to my goal.
My life was full of lots of restrictions and I had little energy and time to myself, so I had to be frank about what could happen and was could not.
In being honest with myself about my personality, life and life limitations, I easily identified exactly what I was NOT prepared to do to get in shape and start exercising again.
My list of things I was UNPREPARED to do
go to a gym
workout for hours
do lots of cardio (like running)
do any exercise that required child care
do any exercise that required I only workout in one specific location
do anything that would not allow for interruptions or rest
It was an effective and insightful exercise because when I was done, I realized that I had few options that could actually work with me and my real life but that was exactly what I needed!
I had direction and customized direction at that!
Whatever satisfied into this list was going to be nearly perfect for me and then I would just have to focus on consistency and discipline.
Well if you work with me currently or follow me on Instagram of Facebook, then you probably know what form of exercise I pursued in light of this list.
I did strength and metabolic conditioning work almost exclusively and then also some walks and sprints.
I dug out my old dumbbells and started doing Metabolic Effect circuits,then branched into kettle bells and eventually began creating my own workouts!
I mostly stuck to a twenty minute workout time frame and the workouts that I could
do in a short period of time
do around my kids
do with little equipment
It all satisfied my list “unwilling to do” list.
And because this approach satisfied my list of requirements as defined by my “Unwilling to do” List, then I was able to be consistent and get results.
You see my other list of “What was I prepared or willing to do” wasthings like,
Do the work
Make sacrifices in the form of entertainment, nap time downtime, etc.
I was willing to workout it various times and even be persistent in my exercise for a while until I saw results, but none of this would have mattered if I hadn’t started with my list of “won’ts” and used that to inform my actions.
The won’ts were more important because let’s face it, it’s much easier to lie to yourself or just be overly optimistic about what we will do, but honing in on exactly what I was NOT going to do, made this a more effective and honest process.
I made all my excuses up front!
I identified what was just NOT going to work, so that mostly all that I was left with was what (barring sickness or unplanned life craziness) 100% doable.
So here’s my advice to you today.
Whatever it is that’s nagging you, that thing is that you know you should be doing, but keep putting off, the one you can never quite make stick, despite good intentions, renewed commitments and all of the resources that you’ve tried….
Ask yourself honestly these two questions about it.
What am I willing to do in order to get it?
What am I UNWILLING to do in order to get it?